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08 November 2007

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I can relate to this. I also find myself gravitating towards certain people at church, my daughter’s preschool, etc. I’m not sure what it is that draws me – usually they’re kind of quiet like me. I also HATE small talk so it’s easier when I’ve already made small talk with someone. :) I think, like you, I also gravitate towards people with kids my age, even though most are older than me.

I’m 27, so I assume that pretty much everyone with kids is 5, 10, even 15 years older than me. At least that’s the case where we live (the DC area). My husband and I are lucky that most of our friends from high school and college are still in the area, but there’s no one our age with kids. Our friends from back in the day are just starting to get married.

I had a “playdate” this weekend with a woman who goes to our church, and her daughter is also in my daughter’s preschool class. In talking to her, I found out she has three younger siblings, the youngest of which was born in 1975. (This came up because she grew up in China, and I asked if her family was affected by the one-child policy, and she said that didn’t go into effect until 1978.) Since she’s the oldest of her siblings she must be at least 10 years older than me. I don’t think she knows how young I am. :) No one has a kid at 24 these days – at least not where I live.

I agree with you about society’s obsession with age grouping. When I was a teenager I was very peer-oriented (who isn’t, as a teenager?) and wouldn’t be caught dead, say, spending a Saturday night with my parents. :) Now, my husband and I see our parents almost every weekend (both sets of parents live nearby). We’ll have BBQs at our house and invite our 20-something friends from high school and college, our Baby Boomer parents, our co-workers in their 30s and 40s, sometimes even our parents’ friends, and of course any kids that anyone has. Every generation is represented. We did want our daughter to have some interaction with kids her age, which is why we signed her up for preschool, but she also spends lots of time with her grandparents, her uncles, and people of all different generations. I think that’s important. I’ve also found that the older you get, the age range that you can consider your peers is wider. I pretty much consider anyone in their 20s or 30s to be my peer. Gone are the days when fifth-graders didn’t want to hang out with fourth-graders. :) (Yes, that happened in my Girl Scout troop!)

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