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29 October 2008

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mary

You know, even before I had our first and worked full time, going away for the weekend was always something that made the rest of the week harder. I actually think it's easier since I had my daughter, since now I'm only out of the house 3 days per week and can get more done at home. Just know that you're not alone. And I for one can say that I'm normally a time-waster and procrastinator. Though with #2 on the way, I seem to have discovered an endless reserve of energy for organizing. Just ask dh: I'm - nearly single-handedly - reorganizing the entire house. If it doesn't move, it's likely to be evaluated for its usefulness and then sorted and stored, or else added to the growing pile of things we don't need. Of course, I was completely useless until after about the 16th week of pregnancy, so maybe I'm just catching up.

SteveG

I recall reading an interesting article a few months back on heart mind and strength.

A study being cited basically explained that, in fact, you have to build a good 20% slack into your life in order to not be overloaded.

Only by planning to be under capacity by that 20% do we have any hope of actually not being overwhelmed.

We've been relentless in approaching life like that over the past year, and it's made a tremendous difference in our stress level.

We keep ourselves regularly 'under-scheduled' and the end result is that life has slowed down a good bit.

That's not to say that we still don't get overwhelmed by laundry and mess on occasion, but recovery seems to be pretty manageable when it does happen.

We even have this amazing thing happening where a couple of times a week we find ourselves 'bored'. The entire clan just ends up hanging out in our family room 'killing time' playing board games, dominoes, playdough, wrestling, or whatever strikes our fancy.

Unsurprisingly, those unstructured, impromptu 'boring' times are the most enjoyable moments of our week.

Here's to under-scheduling and cutting back!

Good luck!

Amy F

I am right there with you on the voices-in-the-head. In the past five minutes I've debated whether to can applesauce today, email Peter's pre-k teacher, put away all the laundry, or generally pick up the house. Yet I'm doing fairly well losing weight, exercising, putting up food for the winter, and working a new 15 hours/week job. I know I spend too much time on the computer, although I see Steve G's point about purposely under-scheduling. Our kids don't do any official activities outside the house beyond pre-k for 4.5 year old Peter and Sunday School for both of them. Are you the one that posted about the internet sucking away moms' feeling of having time to ourselves because we go online instead of reading a book or talking to real people? Maybe that was Faith and Family Live's blog. My from-home job is on the computer and I found that if I turn off bloglines and Gmail notifier and avoid the internet, I get so much more done and feel much better about myself. So the computer is definitely my downfall.

mrsdarwin

I feel like this and I haven't even gone away for the weekend. Perhaps it can be attributed to the new baby -- but not necessarily; I think I'd be behind even without someone taking up one arm most of the time. Though I'd like to note: I used to blithely respond, "What's one more?" when friends asked how we'd handle having four. Not any more. One more is a lot, and it's silly to pretend otherwise.

Good post.

mrsdarwin

I feel like this and I haven't even gone away for the weekend. Perhaps it can be attributed to the new baby -- but not necessarily; I think I'd be behind even without someone taking up one arm most of the time. Though I'd like to note: I used to blithely respond, "What's one more?" when friends asked how we'd handle having four. Not any more. One more is a lot, and it's silly to pretend otherwise.

Good post.

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