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28 June 2010


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I'm not sure that this is something that takes a plan (though if you haven't read Holly Pierlot's 'a Mother's Rule of Life' yet you ought to, just for the bit where she talks about how our children's needs are our monastery bell that must be answered. The book didn't do much for me because it was about plans and structure and I suck at those things). I think it is just a matter of practice, making a series of small choices.

I'm trying to teach my 5 year old to think about the hierarchy of goods this way - that it is not bad to want a toy, but bad to want it *more* than he wants to be loving to his brother, that it is not bad to enjoy his computer time, but bad to choose it over serving his family, that people are always more important that things or occupations.

Which is slowly making me more mindful, that my 2 year old is more important than my blog reading. That taking the time to find an answer to my 5 year old's question about cicadas has to rank over finishing that online argument.

I guess if you wanted to make yourself some rules you could write out and clarify your own personal heirarchy - when two demands or occupations come into conflict, where do they each rank? Which one takes priority?


I have read Holly Pierlot's book, some years ago, and I did get a lot out of it. Perhaps I should crack it open again.

I like your idea of the hierarchy of goods (or priorities) and will think about it some, I think.

Jessica Snell

Thank you for this. Learning to be willing to be interrupted is something I have worked on, am working on, and, I'm sure, will continue to work on for a good, long while.

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