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28 December 2012


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My first face to face meeting with the Darwins definitely had that feeling of "you're not at all how I imagined you'd be". Especially as back then I don't think they'd ever posted pictures of themselves on the blog. But now when I read their blog it definitely has their voices. That's been the case with all the bloggers I've met.

When I read your blog I don't give you an accent or really imagine a spoken voice at all. Now I'm wondering what you'd sound like.


You'll have to ask the Darwins. Although I can assure you that I do not have an accent, because I am from the north side of Dayton, Ohio. We have the American neutral accent, and all others are defined relative to us.


Funny that you bring up accents because every blog I read is filtered through the Southern accent in my head. I expect everyone to have a Southern accent and then I'm taken aback when they don't which is dumb because my husband doesn't even have a Southern accent. But it is what I always expect and then I have to readjust.


Well, I don't have a Southern accent, despite being from Texas. Unless I'm in Texas or around people speaking Southern. Then I kind of shift into it.


Hmmm, now I'm finding myself very curious as to what we were expected to be like from our online persona and how our real life person differed. Aside from my strong Australian accent...

I'm not sure I've ever had someone seem strongly different in person than I'd expected form their writing, but then, I'm not sure I form a strong impression of personal details from people's writing. It's more that I find meeting people online enjoyable because it allows more free-ranging conversation and because the awkward preliminaries of feeling out how much I have in common with someone and what topics we can talk about safely without offense is already done with.


Darwin, The biggest shock was how young you both were. From your online personas at the time, I sort of had this impression of an older couple. I think now you've become much more forthcoming about the family and about yourselves on the blog, but at the time I thought your voice sounded much more serious than I think it is now that I know you in person.

I have to say, since we're talking blog voices, that had I "met" Dom first on his blog instead of face to face I probably wouldn't ever have given him the time of day. Boy did he come across as such a hot head when I first started reading his blog. But he seemed so much more reasonable and likeable in person.

I agree that I'm more comfortable meeting people online first because it does seem like when you meet face to face you jump past so many of those awkward preliminaries that make meeting people such a trial to me.


I expected Darwin to be wordier in person, and I expected MrsDarwin to converse more slowly and deliberately, than real life proved.

Your posts are carefully crafted (or at least appear so!) and often detailed and long. Hence the impression of, hm, erudite deliberateness. Not that your real life personae caused that impression to crash and burn or anything, but it was fun to experience the mental realignment. It is really just a matter of *voice* -- of matching the metaphorical one we speak of writers having, with the literal one of speech-patterns.


We tend to look fairly young for our age, all my gray hair not withstanding. But I've always been fairly loquacious (a word my sixth grade teacher made me look up). Darwin, while not the strong and silent type -- thank God! -- doesn't tend to be chatty in social situations unless he feels on fairly solid ground, while I can make conversation about almost anything.

One thing that surprised us on first meeting you, Bearing, was a) how very petite you are!, and b) how easy you were to talk to, since you've written several times about feeling awkward making small talk in some social situations. But of course you and Mark were perfectly delightful. :) Since we'd met you before, we knew that we'd have a fine time this Christmas, and so we did.

We're just eating Mary Jane's candy snowflake today, so she's much in our thoughts now.


I hope it's yummy. The Wilton Candy Melts-in-a-cookie-cutter was an extremely easy project for a six-year-old to do with help. I will do it again.

I'm amused that my petiteness shocked you. I *told* everyone that I was less than five feet tall. Several times.


Perhaps Bearing's awkwardness went away because we had a house full of children playing gleefully.

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